Saturday, 22 November 2014

7 Tips On How to Handle Rejection In Life

It is inevitable you will be turned down at various
points in your life. You may get rejected when applying
for a job, making a marriage proposal or asking your
boss for a pay raise. It is not a nice experience to have,
but thankfully it is possible to learn how to handle
rejection without letting it destroy you.

Here are 7 tips on what you can do:

1. Don’t take it personally. There are times in our lives
when we are rejected simply because of timing. If you
ask someone out to lunch but they have already eaten
lunch, well they are going to turn you down! If you
apply for a part-time job at a department store during
the Christmas holidays the week of Christmas, they are
going to turn you down because they have enough
staff. Some rejections have nothing to do with us. So if
you got turned down, do not second guess that you are
no good or that no one likes you. It may just be a
question of timing!

2. Think positively. It can be hard to think positively
when you have been rejected, but try to turn the tables
on this. If someone declines your offer for a social
event, think about all the times when you have said no
to others as well. Also, sometimes, getting rejected is a
blessing in disguise. It may provide you with the space
for something bigger that is about to happen!

3. Listen to the rejection carefully. It is important to
pay attention to the reason for the rejection. This will
tell you if you have a second chance or not. If you
apply for a job and the Human Resources Director says

“Not now, but call me in three months,” you can
choose to focus on the part about timing. Try asking a
follow up question to understand why you are being
rejected now and get creative in coming up with an
alternative solution.

4. Be kind to yourself. Being rejected is a
disappointment to say the least. It can be very
frustrating to put yourself out there for either personal
or professional reasons and then, be told “no.” So, be
kind to yourself after getting rejected in some way.

Engage in positive self talk and encourage yourself for
the future. Do not be silly by drowning your sorrows in
food, alcohol, cigarettes or overspending.

5. Have confidence in who you are. Learn to have
confidence that people will like you just as you are and
to make yourself the best “you” that you can be.

Engage in hobbies and activities that you. Laugh and
sparkle! People will respond in amazing ways and you
will get to experience less rejection!

6. Know that everyone gets rejected. There are six
billion people on this earth. We are all beautiful, unique
and different. There are times we are in demand and
times we may get rejected. Knowing that rejection is an
emotion that many people go through is a reality check!
So get over your victim mentality and move on!

7. Try and try again. A popular sales motto is that it
takes twenty “nos” to get to one “yes.” Many
successful authors like Robert Kiyosaki and Mark Victor
Hansen got their manuscripts rejected several times by
publishing houses before they hit big time! Learn from
these authors. Do not therefore take rejection as a sign
of failure. Instead, press on in your dreams!

A lot of rejection is not the actual rejection, but how
you handle it. If you engage in positive self-talk and
have a confident attitude, it is possible to attract a
better outcome. Hence, keep picking yourself up when
you fall. Do not feel daunted but rejoice because you
have found one less way to being turned down. So,
even if a new party says “no” to you, you will always
be able to transform your negative state of mind to a
more empowering one!

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